Our generation is unique. And the most understanding generation, because we are the last generation who listened to our parents and also the first which has to listen to their children.
When my daughter was in her teens, this thought used to cross my mind often.
I used to listen to her argue and marvel at her eloquence and felt a tinge of jealousy that I had never been allowed to voice my mind when I was growing up the way she did - the freedom that my daughter’s generation has is because of the way we have raised them. We made a conscious decision to raise them differently.
Now that I’m an empty nester, my thoughts keep going back to how my mother was when I was 21.
MY MOTHER’S LEGACY
AND NOW, ME!
My looks just align with the way I feel in my head and I am rather unabashed about it.
I am also not trying to be someone I am not or I can’t be. I look at myself nude in a full length mirror and have taught myself to accept what I see. I acknowledge my physical side just as I do with my mental side. There’s no shame to it.
THE MENTAL EDGE
Now for the mental side of things - I strongly believe there’s a kind of rebellion in us that questions norms and rules that society has laid out for us, and thankfully, women in our generation don’t seem to be in any hurry to conform to any of them.
In fact, we are finally getting in touch with our inner selves and trying to accept us the way we are.
The ever-self-sacrificing mother that is glorified in our society is not something we identify with totally. We are rediscovering ourselves, redefining our identities, asserting our individualities. We bask in the glory of being ourselves finally. There’s no guilt in taking time out for ourselves even at the risk of being labelled egoistic.
Then there’s the very important aspect of sexuality. We are consciously in touch with our sexual selves and take time to find our pleasures. They are as important to us as they would be for our male counterparts.
I’m so glad that women of our generation feel no shame at being sexual beings even when our children are jumping onto the same boat.
Then comes the behavioral aspect.
The previous generation was into behaving in a certain conservative way in public, cautiously maintaining an image of sobriety and decorum.
THE INSIDE STORY
I wasn’t privy to my mother’s inner thoughts, and I don’t think many of us were. I just observed her superficially like any daughter does when she’s growing up and thought that she was very comfortable in her various roles that she played within a joint family structure.
It seems to me that the older generation were more accepting of norms the way the were, and to a big extent, our generation doesn’t.
The more I ponder over how we’ve evolved, as always, my only thought is, don’t fight who you are. Get in touch with your inner self and love yourself the way you are.
We’ve done our duties our entire lives. We CAN now allow ourselves the ultimate luxury of being ourselves.