When was the last time you dressed up? Just for yourself? I want to walk you through two different incidents that occurred recently.
I have been observing this phenomenon a lot.....many men don’t like dolled up women, women who wear makeup, women who aren’t “natural”. Not because they consider such women slutty (well, let’s face it, men inevitably like their women to be slutty in bed), but somehow, within the zone of familiarity, they just like us natural.
I haven’t been able to figure out exactly why though.
Is it because it pampers their ego to think they have a girl that’s so superior that she doesn’t need to “makeup” for her shortcomings because she has none to begin with?
Or because a glammed up woman looks too threatening and could have roving eyes?
Or is a made up woman synonymous with being insecure? Or does a woman without make-up remind them of their mothers? I’m just speculating here, but why do men feel that their unasked for opinion needs to be factored into how we dress ourselves up?
Anyway, let me stop playing Freud for a change.
The point I am trying to come to is that, just like my friend stated, we DON’T dress up for men, even if others think we do.
We do dress up just for ourselves and we should keep doing that. It’s so heartening to see that as women in our 40s we’ve have reached an evolved state when we know what we see and like in the mirror.
Believe it or not, we CAN accept ourselves better because we know we are worth more than the body statistics and the silly pouts. There’s a beautiful relationship we have built up with our bodies by now. And that shows as confidence.
Now isn’t that an incredible accomplishment all by itself?
- Certified fitness Trainer