Mother’s Day could be the most celebrated day after Valentine’s Day.
According to Wikipedia, it is a celebration honoring the mother of the family, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds and the influence of mothers in society. What we celebrate here in India is the American version started at the initiative of Ann Reeves Jarvis in the US in the early 20th century.
After spending a considerable amount of years on social media, I came to realize that the need for sisterhood grows when we are past a certain age. I cannot pinpoint the age, but it’s a gradual process that sets in as we grow older - our kids get busy with their lives, a certain restlessness creeps up owing to various factors, and we begin seeking to connect with our inner selves.
But what exactly is sisterhood?
A while ago, I was sitting in a coffee shop and inadvertently, a conversation between a group of middle-aged women fell into my ears. The words “shaadi” and “settle down” were being used a lot and I got the feeling that somehow life revolved around just these two things. Needless to say, they were discussing the future of their grown up kids.
Somehow, my fertile brain started spinning as I had a grown-up daughter at home too and I had never ever spent a minute thinking about her settling down or her marriage.
“Apna haath jagannath” - a phrase I first heard when I was in the 11th grade. The naive fool that I was, it took me quite some time to figure it out. I had been a “weaving fantasies in my head” sort from a very early age, even before I hit my teens.
Our generation is unique. And the most understanding generation, because we are the last generation who listened to our parents and also the first which has to listen to their children.
When I had my first tattoo done at the “ripe old age” of 49, I got to hear things like:
“What! Your mid-life crisis has finally caught up with you!”
“Now? Exactly when the skin is starting to lose elasticity?”
“Why would you EVER do that to yourself!”
Aging. It’s just one of those things we have no control over; growing old is inevitable and honestly, not worth fighting. The aches and pains, the wrinkles, the sagging etc. will all be there. There’s no escape. But none of this means that we should stop trying to stay fit, because growing older has nothing to do with how healthy or fit you keep yourself.
As I was doing the side-lying leg-scissors exercises today, my mind raced back to the times when I was in my late teens in my small-town Bengal home doing the same exercise while watching a Jane Fonda aerobics video tape.
Life coaching is not something I had ever planned or aspired to do; I just grew into it with time.
I am moderately active on social media and express myself freely through my posts. I started getting inbox messages from both men and women asking me for advice on certain situations in life that they were going through.