Mother’s Day could be the most celebrated day after Valentine’s Day.
According to Wikipedia, it is a celebration honoring the mother of the family, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds and the influence of mothers in society. What we celebrate here in India is the American version started at the initiative of Ann Reeves Jarvis in the US in the early 20th century.
What I am not particularly fond of is the self-sacrificing image that is tagged on to a mother. A mother is put on a pedestal only if she puts the needs of her children above her, ALL THE TIME. Of course, unconditional love entails giving our needs a backseat but this can’t be the only criteria for loving. Specially at a time when we, women over forty, are trying to find self-love and beginning to demand our space and time. On top of that, from my experience, I have observed that sacrificing brings with it a sense of entitlement that I don’t like. It’s like “I have done so much for you, now it’s your turn to give back.” We give as mothers coz giving comes naturally to us, coz we get joy and immense satisfaction from giving. We don’t give thinking about what and how much we’ll be getting back. This is love for me.