When I had my first tattoo done at the “ripe old age” of 49, I got to hear things like:
“What! Your mid-life crisis has finally caught up with you!”
“Now? Exactly when the skin is starting to lose elasticity?”
“Why would you EVER do that to yourself!”
You know me - if I want to get a tattoo, it’s because I just want to get a tattoo. I don’t see why that needed to have a crisis attached to it.
But it did set my grey cells ticking; what exactly IS a mid-life crisis?
This is how the dictionary defines it:
“A loss of self-confidence and feeling of anxiety or disappointment that can occur in early middle age.”
Although my first reaction was to smirk, I have to admit, there is some truth to that definition. On the other hand, a single line can hardly even attempt to define the vast gamut of emotions that underline the phrase “Mid-Life Crisis”.
WHAT HAPPENS AT MID-LIFE?
Let’s tackle it step by step.
WHAT’S REALLY GOING ON?
Some of us seek out a change in career that can be something diametrically opposite to what we have been doing; while some of us get this wild urge to be on their own again, some want to indulge in more “me” time.
There’s also a new-found sense of liberation in us once we make peace with the changes in our minds after the initial confusion.
THE BEST PART?
We FINALLY find the relationships we’ve always looked for.
Most of the times, it’s our girlfriends who help us out of this confusion, because we seek out friends who are going through the same emotions and find a lot of comfort in confiding with them.
These special people in our lives are completely non-judgemental and accept us the way we are. No questions are asked and they are there to listen to us and help us love ourselves the way we are. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you ladies that there’s a huge sharing of empathy that happens among girlfriends.
So, please be eternally grateful to these people.
WHAT ABOUT THE TATTOOS?
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