When I had my first tattoo done at the “ripe old age” of 49, I got to hear things like: “What! Your mid-life crisis has finally caught up with you!” “Now? Exactly when the skin is starting to lose elasticity?” “Why would you EVER do that to yourself!” You know me - if I want to get a tattoo, it’s because I just want to get a tattoo. I don’t see why that needed to have a crisis attached to it. But it did set my grey cells ticking; what exactly IS a mid-life crisis? This is how the dictionary defines it: “A loss of self-confidence and feeling of anxiety or disappointment that can occur in early middle age.” Although my first reaction was to smirk, I have to admit, there is some truth to that definition. On the other hand, a single line can hardly even attempt to define the vast gamut of emotions that underline the phrase “Mid-Life Crisis”. WHAT HAPPENS AT MID-LIFE?Let’s tackle it step by step.
WHAT’S REALLY GOING ON?
Some of us seek out a change in career that can be something diametrically opposite to what we have been doing; while some of us get this wild urge to be on their own again, some want to indulge in more “me” time. There’s also a new-found sense of liberation in us once we make peace with the changes in our minds after the initial confusion. THE BEST PART?We FINALLY find the relationships we’ve always looked for. Most of the times, it’s our girlfriends who help us out of this confusion, because we seek out friends who are going through the same emotions and find a lot of comfort in confiding with them. These special people in our lives are completely non-judgemental and accept us the way we are. No questions are asked and they are there to listen to us and help us love ourselves the way we are. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you ladies that there’s a huge sharing of empathy that happens among girlfriends. So, please be eternally grateful to these people. WHAT ABOUT THE TATTOOS?
19 Comments
Vaishali
12/11/2018 07:08:33 am
I am 43, Frankly, I didn’t realise I was going they this phase till I read this article, made me think
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Hi Vaishali,
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Bijayini sarkar
12/15/2018 09:31:59 am
Highly impressed,coz running through a mid age crisis.....but your blog is a big support
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Mrs shubham Rajesh
12/18/2018 04:14:02 am
Hi
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Dear Shubham,
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Ganga
12/18/2018 05:30:25 am
All that you've written resonates with me. I've done the tattoo, stopped colouring my hair, went on only ladies group holidays. It's been a great journey. I did go for personal counseling sessions to over come some personal issues I faced when I was thirty nine, forty which helped me over come the obstacles I was facing. Never did I look at it as a mid life crisis. You have made me realise that it might have been the crisis you've mentioned .
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Dear Ganga,
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Rajani Menon
12/18/2018 08:20:23 pm
Dear Fiery Over 40
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Dear Pooja,
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Devyani
12/19/2018 09:44:23 pm
Hi
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Shuchi Kaushal
12/21/2018 09:00:54 am
Hey!! Lovely article! Got a very short cut at 39. Decided to leave everything and be on my own just an year after that. However stayed with the family as I never wanted my son to suffer because of my decisions. I am spiritually active now and understand myself in a new light. No more non sense of any kind for me. Last year at 41 years I decided to be me before being perfect for everyone else. I must say it's quite liberating. There is a lot of clarity of thought and stable emotions. This month only I started classes for professional theatre. I am loving every minute of it. The best thing is that I have learned to be only responsible for myself and no one else (except my son) which had made life easy. After 40 I have understood the real meaning of living in the present and believe me it's the only thing one should learn rest every thing falls in place.
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Dear Shuchi,
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Ekta
12/22/2018 10:21:57 am
Hi Tisha
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Dear Ekta,
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Sonali Yadav
2/9/2020 06:27:55 am
Lovely article, could totally relate myself with it. Yes midlife without crises! it took a little while to shape it from midlife crises to without crises. It take's a lot of understanding of self to change the situation completely in your favor. I struggled with it for a while but finally rediscovered myself. I guess its the best phase of life. M loving the new rebel in me. Defying all the odds, started running at 45, sky diving at 45 and the list keeps on increasing day by day(Tattoo too is on the list). Mid life the best time of life!
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2/9/2020 10:52:39 pm
Sonali dear,
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